Online Dating for the Sensitive Soul

Online dating can bring about high expectations for romance while usually delivering something more between a booty call and a wedding date. It’s really like a box of chocolates, and no matter how direct your profile is, or how clear your conversation is, you never really know what kind of date you are going to get. With that said, I do believe online dating has potential for something amazing. The biggest piece to grasp of online dating is maintaining inner peace amidst uncertainty. I wanted to share some tools I’ve learned as a sensitive person myself to bring peace throughout the process.

  1. Don’t hook up with your date right away. No matter how cute they are, how spiritual they claim to be, or how vegan they are, it doesn’t mean they are going to love you unconditionally, forever. As a sensitive person who understands everything is connected and everything is energy, you mustn’t exchange sexual energy with them without a commitment. As sensitive people, we will start feeling that unconditional bond that comes with closeness and not everyone feels that way with sex in this desensitized society. It’s sad, but we are surrounded by people who truly are incapable of feeling because of diet, or media exposure, or lifestyle. You can hook up if you must, but just be prepared to visit #5.
  2. Texting with someone over a period of time does not necessarily mean you are bonding at all. Seems weird, right? You’ve been getting good morning and goodnight texts for weeks, and they text you their yummy vegan meals, and let you know they are thinking about you. In your universe, this means something, right? In the world of online dating, there may be three other conversations going on similarly with multiple people. In the just-swipe-to-find-your-soulmate culture, instant gratification in the land of a million options to choose from is the name of the game. The only way to truly be sure they are feeling the same way is to regularly see each other in person.
  3. Trust your intuition. They said all the right things, even have a million coincidences with your life story, yet didn’t text you the next day? Red flags should not be ignored. Chances are they are not as sensitive as they portrayed, didn’t really catch any major feels no matter what they said, and are on date #2 for the weekend. People always present their best selves on dates and are not always as they seem. The red flag you ignored that didn’t feel right to you will ultimately be the reason you visit #5 later.
  4. Avoid narcissists playing games with your sensitivity. I once dated a guy who really hurt my feelings by not making plans for a second date. A few weeks later, he started blaming me for us not working out because I was still accepting dates with other guys. This took me for a loop. He actually had me feel bad for a behavior that was a logical response to his behavior of not reciprocating interest. Complicated, right? Turns out, he didn’t really want me anyway. He just wanted the power to control who I was dating or not dating like some kind of ego stroke. If someone is being heart-centered, they’d never shame you or guilt you into a behavior. Especially if they aren’t even observing that same behavior (ex. they get mad you still have Tinder dates, yet they are still active on Tinder). If someone is saying something contrary to your purest intentions, trust yourself over anyone else’s opinion and don’t let yourself get manipulated.
  5. Heartbreak is sometimes inevitable. You caught some feels while your date did not. You are a deeply feeling human and it’s okay. Heartbreak means you are on the path to finding what you truly want, and you are closer than ever now that you are no longer wasting time on the wrong person. Let yourself feel it, but don’t wallow too long. Meditate on the infinite abundance of the universe and realize true love won’t be denied to you when it’s right. Trust in the reason for the heartbreak and try again. Maybe you were just meant to touch their life for a moment and to move on to something more right for you. Retreat to yourself for awhile to keep your energy high, and try again. And try not to let the last guy’s mistake affect how you treat the next guy, who could be genuinely trying. 💚

Seems a little scary, right? You may be thinking why put myself through this at all? Trust me, goddess, I feel you. Life is busy and there’s a million things you can experience while you are here. It doesn’t have to necessarily be a romantic love experience at all to lead a fulfilled life. But I do know romantic love is one of the most euphoric experiences to have while you’re a human. A shot at a true partner to experience the magic of life with is worth it.

Realize that the ups and the downs, they are all here for a reason. The Universe would never let you go through a door that wasn’t yours to open. Trust the process. Trust the heartache. Even trust the sadness. The wrong ones will continue to be removed from your life one way or another. And with every door definitively shut, you are that much closer to finding the right one to finally walk through. Know this, and be at peace with it. Remember, sensitivity is a super power. And being able to love deeply and care about people you meet is the reason you’ll find romantic love this life. ✌🏼

Anything You Can Eat, I Can Eat Vegan

Veganism is kind of like the mainstream belief in the normality of the “food chain hierarchy”, but in reverse. How did the animal get this nutrient ? What did the animal eat? If the animal got it from another animal, what did that animal eat? There in lies the answer to any nutrition inquiry.

The design of the Earth and our bodies is so intelligent, our nutrients we need just naturally occur in growing plants, and natural elements. Scarcity during changing seasons and weather conditions is the reason our early ancestors hunted animals. In this day and age, a large variety of plants is at our fingertips within a moment’s notice. Killing is unnecessary. Compassion truly begins on your plate: for the animals, the environment, your health, and the future of the human race.

Manifestation Begins with Intention

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The power of clear intentions bring about more precise manifestations. Every manifestation starts with a thought. Setting clear intentions with your thoughts is a powerful way to bring about your desires more quickly. From Jim Carrey, to Will Smith, to Oprah, many successful people in this current day and age have talked about how they set clear intentions about what goals they want to bring into their lives before they even begin to try to achieve it.

Before I ever wrote a page, I set out the intention to write a book with my thoughts. I did this visualization process all the time in the business world and was successful at it, so I took this process to a new venture. I pictured what it would feel like to bring about a spiritually-minded book. I pictured what it would feel like to hold it in my hand, to be interviewed about it, and to have a concise, tangible book where I could share my experiences and thoughts on spirituality, law of attraction, and the afterlife.

The manifestation process is following up on your inner guidance from your intentions for your desired manifestation. It seemed like a little amount of effort added up to huge transformations over time as the universe clearly responded to the intentions I set. I was connected with thought leaders in the field of publishing and spiritual teaching to affirm I was on the right path. Less than a year later, I have most of my book written. My intention has been manifesting into form, and it has been the most rewarding process.

This process can used to manifest in many areas of life. Be a scientist and try it for yourself. Next time you wake up in the morning, set clear intentions for the day you would like to manifest ahead. Visualize how it will feel at the end of the day to have had the experiences you desire for yourself. Whether you set the intention to connect with helpful people, to flow through your schedule with ease, or to manifest abundance with your sales, your intention in the morning is your way to co-create the day ahead with the universe. Follow your guidance and go with the flow, and watch your manifestations unfold.

Synchronicity: Living a Synchronistic Life

Inner-connectedness between all beings is very real. I wasn’t so sure my entire life until synchronistic events made themselves an everyday presence in my life. I found myself after my Dad passed away asking questions about God, spirituality, and pushing the potential of human existence. If you accept things as they are, and never open up to the idea that we know very little as a society about the Divine, you may never find yourself on the journey to spiritual understanding. As soon as I put the intention out to find out more, many meaningful coincidences started entering into my life. What do these coincidences mean? I find that they are signs that I am on the right path. Synchronistic encounters are road marks on the map to our life purpose. Albert Einstein once said that “coincidence is God’s way of remaining anonymous.” I truly believe that. Coincidence is God’s way of co-creating miracles with us in our everyday lives. We need to follow those hunches, those opportunities that feel right to us that present themselves in our day-to-day lives. When we follow our inner divine guidance, synchronicity becomes evident continuously. As we follow our vague knowingness into the right direction, God has a way of lining up a synchronistic event in the future by aligning different circumstances throughout the past. When a synchronistic encounter finds you, without a doubt you know that a Divine intelligence brought this moment together for you.

What is synchronicity, and how do we teach those who have not yet had these encounters? Swiss psychologist Carl Jung devoted his life to answering these questions. Jung explains, “in all chaos there is a cosmos, in all disorder a secret order.” I have found in my own life that painful experiences, and crazy outside circumstances actually turned out to be exactly what I needed on my path. Even though my feeble human mind could not see the happy outcome beyond the chaos, there seems to be a Divine intelligence that lead me to a better destination. As I started realizing that there is an invisible Divine hand in everything, tangible coincidences became very obvious to me. Jung describes this phenomenon so eloquently when he said, “synchronicity is an ever present reality for those who have eyes to see.”Telling you about synchronicity is nothing compared to actually experiencing it for yourself.

In my best effort to explain the meaningful coincidences in my life, I have posted a video log to YouTube explaining a few of my own personal experiences with synchronicity. A more detailed account of many events in my life will be released in my upcoming book with the working title “Bitch! A Love Story”.

Feel free to share your own experiences with synchronistic events below! I would love to read them. Namaste

 

The Goddesses of Easter: Ostara vs Ishtar

A few years ago, I had a dramatic restoration of faith in God. During this time of my life, I ended up renting out to a roommate to help with bills. I don’t believe it was an accident that he just so happened to hold a bachelor’s degree from one of the state’s best universities in Comparative Religions. Since he did not personally affiliate with any particular religion, I often got an unbiased perspective of the control of information (and sometimes misinformation) in religions. I found myself asking him many questions on historical references for things I had been discovering through intuition and spiritual truths. Growing up, I had lost interest in traditional holidays I celebrated in my Catholic upbringing, but I found myself on a quest to separate fact from fiction on why the modern world practices and believes what it does. Holiday origins were some of the most surprising findings.

My old roommate was the first person who ever informed me about the calendar as we know it today. He spoke of Constantine who was burdened with the task of unifying the Pagans and the Christians, who had been brutally killing each other over religious disputes at the time of his reign. It was under his rule that birthed the calendar of mainstream religious holidays we know in modern times. Pagan holidays were rewritten to fit the life of Christ. As a leader, it is not difficult to understand why compromising between the two belief systems made the most sense at the time. Unfortunately, what we are left with is an untrue depiction of history. While I am a true believer in Jesus and the miracles he performed, I can confidently say that Easter is not the exact time of the resurrection. Furthermore, Christmas is also historically incorrect in timing of Jesus’ birth.

There is much dispute over the true origins of Easter. I have come to accept two different goddesses (with a small g) who, prior to Constantine, were the two celebrated deities associated with the Spring Equinox in different parts of the world: Ishtar and Ostara. While many people across the country are showing interest in Ishtar due to the similar pronunciation, Ostara undoubtedly has had a lasting impact on Easter.

Ishtar has been worshipped and called upon since ancient Babylonian times. She embodies the very strong, feminine energy of Venus. Ishtar represents the Divine feminine in her aspects such as harvesting, mothering, fertility, healing, and love. It should come to no surprise that she was celebrated during Easter time during the Spring Equinox. While Ishtar’s true animal totems are the owl and the lion, eggs and rabbits have been associated symbolically in Paganism with fertility, which is an aspect of Ishtar.

20140419-211059.jpgOstara (in Old English spelled Ēastre) was a Germanic goddess and diety I had never heard of until I drew her card in Dr. Doreen Virtue’s Goddesses Oracle Card deck. As a clairevoyant, Doreen credits both “East” and “Easter” to being named after Ostara, who is celebrated as the bringer of light. She explains that this was due to “the sun rising in the East, and the increase in sunlight beginning in the Celtic springtime.” Ostara’s true symbols (as pictured) are the rabbit and the egg, which is undoubtedly where the Easter bunny comes from.

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Photo Credit: Goddess Guidance Oracle Cards by Dr. Doreen Virtue, Ph.D

While both goddesses were celebrated during Easter, I still do not believe this should deter Christians from celebrating Easter. This battle between Paganism and Christianity has been going on for far too long. Are we really going to carry on our arguments of our ancestors? While I believe in the divine feminine, I also believe Jesus was as real as you and I, and I honor him, his message of love, and the miracles he performed. It really shouldn’t be about when and where we celebrate these amazing beings as much as how we are implementing their teachings in our day-to-day lives.

Q&A: Stress and Anxiety Relief- Honoring Your Sensitivity

This past week, I received two separate questions on my Facebook from readers pertaining to the same topic. I have decided to include my responses on my blog, assuming many others may be dealing with stress and anxiety from our daily lives. Honoring your intuition and sensitivity will allow you to overcome these feelings and live a happier, healthier life.

Q: I have read really great things! I like the stuff you are interested in and the way you explain them. What really caught my eye is when you were talking about all the psychic senses, particularly the Clairvoyance part. The part that caught me was the high anxiety you felt, saying it was because you were ignoring your psychic abilities. Will you touch on that?

A: Absolutely. Even though I was very open minded to angelic beings and psychic abilities as a child, I found myself pushing spirituality aside in my early twenties to pursue a career in business, particularly insurance, which is a highly regulated industry. I found myself suppressing my true interests and intuition for a stable income.  

My anxiety was off the charts. I was never super anxious or stressed growing up, even in seemingly stressful situations, but putting my spirituality out of mind made things worse. I would find myself barely able to sleep at night, even after working a 12 hour day. I was always going over and over my day in my head and thinking about all I had to accomplish the next day. On weekends, the anxiety would still be there even when I was off work. I would blast a fan during all seasons to drown out any noises to occupy my mind, and to put myself asleep to the sound.

After talking to family and a counselor about my dissatisfaction feeling anxious, I tried a few mainstream approaches. I tried the prescription drug, Ativan, and hypnotherapy focusing on releasing anxiety from my life, but nothing seem to stick or last long. I found the Ativan didn’t really do anything. Later, after studying the Indigo generation, I have learned drugs like Aderral and Ativan flush out of an indigo body rapidly. After studying “Awakening Your Indigo Power”, a certification course by Charles Virtue, I realized being unaffected by drugs is an indigo trait. According to Charles, Heaven knew that the indigo spirit would be a shock to the current world and many would try to control a “rebellious” child by suppressing their divine guidance and emotions through narcotics. Because of this, drugs and chemicals leave our systems very quickly, and have little effect.

I realized when my mind was most reflective was at night, that is when spirit was often trying to communicate with me. One night, I felt a presence near my bed. I knew it was my dad. I said outloud, “Dad, I really appreciate you visiting me, but I really need to sleep, so please leave me alone right now.” I literally felt his presence leave the room. You can be in perfect control of your abilities, but when ignoring them you are not protecting yourself. You can control with who, where, and when you want to communicate. All you have to do is think or say a boundary aloud.

These experiences set me out on a journey to actively use my psychic abilities. During work, I should have been shielding myself from the negativity around me and clearing my workspace, and home of negative energy, as well as my chakras at nighttime before sleep. In my findings, I realized sensitive people often absorb energy from others. The energy of my fast paced, stressful insurance job would stay with me well after I left the office. It wasn’t until I consciously cleared each chakra point of negative energy before bed until I started sleeping regularly. The act of releasing the day’s events each night reduced my anxiety tremendously.

At night, you can ask angels to clear the room of any negative entities or energy. I would always call on Archangel Michael to shield me and ask angels to guard my home. I highly recommend the Chakra Clearing nighttime meditation by Doreen Virtue. The book is worth buying to better understand the chakras, however, the meditation is available for free on YouTube. I often burn incense and sage as well to bring in a higher vibrational atmosphere. Once I started getting in a routine, everything calmed down for me. When you are clearing yourself regularly, new spiritual insights come more easily and rapidly. 

Q: Hey Julie. Do you have any suggestions/insight into Palm/thumb stones? I’m looking for a stone to use at work, I have an extremely stressful job and it’s consuming my life (stress, negativity, etc). I’ve been doing P90X3 to burn off some stress, and trying to eat clean, but it’s not helping.

A: For calming, I really like blue calcite (blue crystal ball pictured). I have it in a crystal ball form and keep it in my room. Whenever I feel stressed, I like to hold it and it calms me down immediately. A metaphysical store should also have it in a thumb or palm form. It helps with developing psychic abilities and astral travel as well.

Also for negativity, I used to keep an amethyst (purple crystals pictured) on my desk at the insurance office. It is a protection stone and keeps the effects of negativity away from you on a vibrational level.

As a sensitive person it is important to ground yourself. You may feel really great in meditation, but that feeling will fade when you go back in your body during your day to day regimen.  Keeping black tourmaline (small black crystals pictured) around will help you to bring the higher dimensional vibrations to the Earthly plane.

Keeping rose quartz around your environment will bring a loving atmosphere, and often sets the intention for the other stones to bring in love energy when placed next to other crystals.

Certain smells can also be calming. I highly recommend lavender and chamomile like the spray pictured below. I also burned a lavender candle on my desk at work. The aroma put my customers in better moods as well.

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I hope this helps! If anyone has any other suggestions for what may have worked for you, please share in the comments! Namaste 

Welcome to the New Age: Transformation of the Collective Consciousness

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When I first “woke up” spiritually, it was an alarming experience to realize many of the people I knew and came to love were still sleeping. Being spiritually aware beyond any doubt is a beautiful experience, but sometimes the fear has its way to creep in, and you may feel isolated and lonely at times. I wouldn’t trade my dark nights of the soul for anything. The experience makes you strong and lovingly powerful. A dark night of the soul has birthed some profound prophets and healers. Ancient Egyptians took the experience of a dark night of the soul as a right of passage. Egyptians would shut themselves in a coffin for days, left to only the darkness and their own thoughts. They either died of fright from their own fears, or emerged stronger and wiser.

I was frightened at first to share my experiences or beliefs for fear of what others would think. These fears have proven themselves insignificant. Sure, some people that were once in my life are no longer there due to rejecting my new look on life. I find that the changes in friendships have been to my benefit. It has been so rewarding to find that the more I speak my truth, the more people who are spiritually aware have walked into my life, and the more my long time friends with similar closeted beliefs now step forward. The long conversations, synchronistic encounters and events, and the ideas that we have all shared are truly priceless.

As a child, I heard many theories about the new age- the golden age, and the transformational shift in consciousness our time period would be undergoing. Never in my wildest dreams did I ever imagine how real and beautiful all of the predictions of the new age truly were. Heaven on Earth is a choice. It is a choice we make every second of our lives. It is a choice to have our thoughts dwell in a spiritual direction, and to attract miracles. To have your mind open in a spiritual direction will help you manifest profound psychic experiences. The opposite is also true, that if you close yourself off to the possibility of spiritual experiences, you may never have the experience.

Keep an open mind, have lovingly honest conversations, and watch your life shift in a positive direction. Not everyone will make it in this lifetime but that is also their free will choice to do so. Don’t label someone as negative or not spiritual since it discourages others even further. I always say it just hasn’t happened yet for them, but it will. I’ve seen some people make dramatic changes, including myself. No one is ever really lost and the spiritual path is here for everyone when they are ready.