Online dating can bring about high expectations for romance while usually delivering something more between a booty call and a wedding date. It’s really like a box of chocolates, and no matter how direct your profile is, or how clear your conversation is, you never really know what kind of date you are going to get. With that said, I do believe online dating has potential for something amazing. The biggest piece to grasp of online dating is maintaining inner peace amidst uncertainty. I wanted to share some tools I’ve learned as a sensitive person myself to bring peace throughout the process.
Don’t hook up with your date right away. No matter how cute they are, how spiritual they claim to be, or how vegan they are, it doesn’t mean they are going to love you unconditionally, forever. As a sensitive person who understands everything is connected and everything is energy, you mustn’t exchange sexual energy with them without a commitment. As sensitive people, we will start feeling that unconditional bond that comes with closeness and not everyone feels that way with sex in this desensitized society. It’s sad, but we are surrounded by people who truly are incapable of feeling because of diet, or media exposure, or lifestyle. You can hook up if you must, but just be prepared to visit #5.
Texting with someone over a period of time does not necessarily mean you are bonding at all. Seems weird, right? You’ve been getting good morning and goodnight texts for weeks, and they text you their yummy vegan meals, and let you know they are thinking about you. In your universe, this means something, right? In the world of online dating, there may be three other conversations going on similarly with multiple people. In the just-swipe-to-find-your-soulmate culture, instant gratification in the land of a million options to choose from is the name of the game. The only way to truly be sure they are feeling the same way is to regularly see each other in person.
Trust your intuition. They said all the right things, even have a million coincidences with your life story, yet didn’t text you the next day? Red flags should not be ignored. Chances are they are not as sensitive as they portrayed, didn’t really catch any major feels no matter what they said, and are on date #2 for the weekend. People always present their best selves on dates and are not always as they seem. The red flag you ignored that didn’t feel right to you will ultimately be the reason you visit #5 later.
Avoid narcissists playing games with your sensitivity. I once dated a guy who really hurt my feelings by not making plans for a second date. A few weeks later, he started blaming me for us not working out because I was still accepting dates with other guys. This took me for a loop. He actually had me feel bad for a behavior that was a logical response to his behavior of not reciprocating interest. Complicated, right? Turns out, he didn’t really want me anyway. He just wanted the power to control who I was dating or not dating like some kind of ego stroke. If someone is being heart-centered, they’d never shame you or guilt you into a behavior. Especially if they aren’t even observing that same behavior (ex. they get mad you still have Tinder dates, yet they are still active on Tinder). If someone is saying something contrary to your purest intentions, trust yourself over anyone else’s opinion and don’t let yourself get manipulated.
Heartbreak is sometimes inevitable. You caught some feels while your date did not. You are a deeply feeling human and it’s okay. Heartbreak means you are on the path to finding what you truly want, and you are closer than ever now that you are no longer wasting time on the wrong person. Let yourself feel it, but don’t wallow too long. Meditate on the infinite abundance of the universe and realize true love won’t be denied to you when it’s right. Trust in the reason for the heartbreak and try again. Maybe you were just meant to touch their life for a moment and to move on to something more right for you. Retreat to yourself for awhile to keep your energy high, and try again. And try not to let the last guy’s mistake affect how you treat the next guy, who could be genuinely trying. 💚
Seems a little scary, right? You may be thinking why put myself through this at all? Trust me, goddess, I feel you. Life is busy and there’s a million things you can experience while you are here. It doesn’t have to necessarily be a romantic love experience at all to lead a fulfilled life. But I do know romantic love is one of the most euphoric experiences to have while you’re a human. A shot at a true partner to experience the magic of life with is worth it.
Realize that the ups and the downs, they are all here for a reason. The Universe would never let you go through a door that wasn’t yours to open. Trust the process. Trust the heartache. Even trust the sadness. The wrong ones will continue to be removed from your life one way or another. And with every door definitively shut, you are that much closer to finding the right one to finally walk through. Know this, and be at peace with it. Remember, sensitivity is a super power. And being able to love deeply and care about people you meet is the reason you’ll find romantic love this life. ✌🏼
Inviting synchronicity into your life is to notice the meaningful coincidences you experience. Synchronistic moments are answers to our prayers. Need a new job? Coincidentally, you met someone who knows the perfect person who could help you right at the right moment. Need a new car? No problem. You walk down the road and see a for sale by owner sign on a car for the perfect price.
I have literally experienced these things. All I had to do is ask God and the angels, and trust that these things would happen. I asked for a clear sign and divine assistance, then I was open to whatever presented itself. If you outline how your prayers should be answered, you may miss the boat. Be open to new things and trust that these coincidences are something the universe knows will be perfect for you, even if its not exactly what you expected.
Albert Einstein posed a question meant for us to question the very nature of our existence. “Is the Universe a friendly place?” Based on what we know about quantum physics and the law of attraction, I believe we can answer yes, the universe is a friendly place. As someone who has manifested both miracles and problems into her life, I can say without a shred of doubt that the universe is willing to bring you anything you wish. Even though I have manifested horrible things, I have also manifested seemingly impossible good fortune.
Whatever your focus is on becomes manifested into material form. Belief makes the unbelievable tangible. Want to see an angel? After continuously focusing on my belief in a spiritual experience, I finally experienced many amazing things. Worried about a car being repossessed? Worries can block all abundance to help pay for that car, so the universe helped there as well…. Like earning thousands the day after it’s repossession. A little too ironic, right? Focused on abundance and a huge bank account? I’ve been there too and used my riches to share with my family, friends, and causes I cared about. Worried about a bad grade? The focus will make you late or miss class due to unforeseen circumstances no matter how hard you studied. Want to talk to that spiritual guru you’ve been listening to on the radio? No problem. The universe brought a phone call to me through mutual friends. Want that reading by that medium so in demand she has a 4 year waiting list and charges a ridiculous fee? No problem. Belief you will speak can bring you to that right time right place moment, free of any charge, I may add. Want a paid writing opportunity? A stay-at-home business? Belief will make these things come to you almost effortlessly.
After seeing these patterns in my own life, I can without a doubt say the universe is a friendly place. One spiritual teacher I admire explains that the universe is like an over-eager genie granting your wish before you even say “I wish for”. The universe is granting them by responding to your thoughts. Your thoughts literally manifest everything in your life. Not everyone likes to hear this because it requires taking responsibility for the good and the bad, but it is 100% true.
Thank goodness all manifestations take time and consistent focus and action steps. Emotions can give us clues about whether our thoughts are focused on our highest good or not. Bad feelings about the worries you have will give you previews, like a loving warning before it manifests into form. The other realization that helped is to realize positive loving thoughts are way more powerful than negative ones. However, consistent worry will attract the very things you don’t want.
Realizing this freeing concept that the universe really does want us to have what we need has invited career opportunities, friendships, love, and abundance that I always wanted. Einstein’s intent to leave us exploring this question has given us a whole new understanding of consciousness. Reality can be whatever you would like it to be. Life really can be a dream. There is always a way… even though our feeble human minds cannot see an answer, the divine can. Let the universe do the heavy lifting.
Inner-connectedness between all beings is very real. I wasn’t so sure my entire life until synchronistic events made themselves an everyday presence in my life. I found myself after my Dad passed away asking questions about God, spirituality, and pushing the potential of human existence. If you accept things as they are, and never open up to the idea that we know very little as a society about the Divine, you may never find yourself on the journey to spiritual understanding. As soon as I put the intention out to find out more, many meaningful coincidences started entering into my life. What do these coincidences mean? I find that they are signs that I am on the right path. Synchronistic encounters are road marks on the map to our life purpose. Albert Einstein once said that “coincidence is God’s way of remaining anonymous.” I truly believe that. Coincidence is God’s way of co-creating miracles with us in our everyday lives. We need to follow those hunches, those opportunities that feel right to us that present themselves in our day-to-day lives. When we follow our inner divine guidance, synchronicity becomes evident continuously. As we follow our vague knowingness into the right direction, God has a way of lining up a synchronistic event in the future by aligning different circumstances throughout the past. When a synchronistic encounter finds you, without a doubt you know that a Divine intelligence brought this moment together for you.
What is synchronicity, and how do we teach those who have not yet had these encounters? Swiss psychologist Carl Jung devoted his life to answering these questions. Jung explains, “in all chaos there is a cosmos, in all disorder a secret order.” I have found in my own life that painful experiences, and crazy outside circumstances actually turned out to be exactly what I needed on my path. Even though my feeble human mind could not see the happy outcome beyond the chaos, there seems to be a Divine intelligence that lead me to a better destination. As I started realizing that there is an invisible Divine hand in everything, tangible coincidences became very obvious to me. Jung describes this phenomenon so eloquently when he said, “synchronicity is an ever present reality for those who have eyes to see.”Telling you about synchronicity is nothing compared to actually experiencing it for yourself.
In my best effort to explain the meaningful coincidences in my life, I have posted a video log to YouTube explaining a few of my own personal experiences with synchronicity. A more detailed account of many events in my life will be released in my upcoming book with the working title “Bitch! A Love Story”.
Feel free to share your own experiences with synchronistic events below! I would love to read them. Namaste
I write about this night in great detail in my upcoming book. This night was a few months before my father passed. Sheryl opened up with a song that forever changed my views on consciousness called “God Bless This Mess.”
I was working at my Dad’s insurance office at the time for a company that my Mom had also worked for, and coincidentally was how they were first introduced. My parents names are Robert and Teresa.
Song Lyrics: “Got a job in town selling insurance on the phone with Robert and Teresa and two con men from back home. Everyone I call up doesn’t have the time to chat. Everybody is so busy doing this and doing that. Something has gone missing and it makes me kind of sad. God Bless This Mess.”
Other than my parents names and insurance, the rest of it didn’t make sense till years later. I ended up working for an office within a mile from my Dad’s old office years after he passed. I worked with people from the area where our first house was located. I found myself in a situation where I ended up being in a whistleblower situation with a couple of the guys I was working with. I also developed a texting word track and strategy that agents still use today because people weren’t answering sales calls as much as they used to. The song popped on my iPod one day when I was meditating and asking for guidance about how unhappy I was in that office. It was amazing that lyrics someone wrote years prior lined up with my life perfectly. I felt my Dad was watching over me. This situation not only proved to me that consciousness survives after death, but also that time is anything but linear. I firmly believe that God works through each one of us like he worked through Sheryl Crow to bring me a divine message… All we have to do is be authentic in our self expression.
I have gone through a huge spiritual transformation during the past 6 years. People wonder how I had such a dramatic restoration of faith. It is honestly because dramatic signs like this keep happening to me! And all I had to do was ask the angels for help with an open, loving heart. I am an ordinary girl who has been blessed to have some extraordinary experiences. The spiritual experience is here for everyone.