Taking a moment to reflect on my weight loss journey tonight, I am appreciating where I am at. Many people are surprised when I tell them I’ve never actually set a goal weight. In fact, I only recently even bought a scale and that was due to being interviewed about my weight loss. I just wanted to be able to speak about my weight with certainty. Even now, though many people acknowledge I have a ways to go or more weight to lose, I still don’t really have an end goal.
Dr. Wayne Dyer was a brilliant man, whose life’s work has affected my own greatly. He once said that, “Deficiency motivation doesn’t work. It will lead to a life-long pursuit of try to fix me. Learn to appreciate what you have and where and who you are.” This resonated with me on a deep level.
When you focus on lack, you experience more of it. I don’t want to spend my life being someone who focuses on fixing all of the perceived problems I may or may not even have. When I stopped focusing on my weight problem, I stopped having a weight problem. My weight loss has truly happened out of self-love. I wake up everyday and try to do better for myself. I became discerning in all areas of my life: from food, to the people I allow around me, to how I occupy my time, to the thoughts that flow through my mind. I choose what’s best for me in that moment. I eat plants that’ll make me feel good and motivated to be active, versus processed food that makes me feel like crap. I let go of people who cut me down (even if it’s a joke, it’s never nice) and hang around the ones that build good vibes with me. I meditate instead of focusing on the thoughts that stress me out. It’s really been simple. Enough time has passed that physically, I’ve drastically changed from who I was even a year ago.
Even now, standing at a hundred pounds lighter, there are people who can only see what I have yet to lose, focusing on lack. I don’t listen to them. I focus on what I’ve gained, what I’ve accomplished, and how amazing the human body really is. When you focus on loving who you are in this moment, everything changes. When you stop listening to the people who don’t believe in you, you start to believe in yourself. This mentality and way of life has opened doors I only dreamed of. The more you focus on being love, which is your true, authentic self, the physical transformation will also become evident.
We have been conditioned from birth to feel the need to expand ourselves, to set goals, to achieve, to acquire. Once we accomplish a goal, we move on to the next, always needing to validate our lives with the next big accomplishment. The problem with always having your sights on the future is that you might just miss the journey. Every moment you spend awake, consciously in a state of just being is a blessing and a miracle. There is no need to validate your miraculousness.
Take a moment each morning to set a new goal for yourself: to relax and enjoy every moment of the day. When we rest, and nurture ourselves, we grow without striving and struggling. When we are rested and practice mindfulness, ideas will come naturally. If that leads to be a future accomplishment, let it, but don’t let your mind dwell in the future. The more we go with the flow, stay present in the here and now, and honor ourselves as whole beings, the less we need to struggle. We push against the energy of the universe when we vibrationally tell the world we need more. When we honor what we have and who we are as whole, we send the vibration of leading a whole life. This is the foundation of living a conscious life.
Julie Tour wearing an Amber stone over her third eye chakra.
Amber is a gem stone with metaphysical and physical properties. The truth is that amber is a fossilized resin that has been used in history as a protective and healing stone. Amber has been found all over the world from the Dominican Republic, Britain, to ancient Egypt. Hardened tree resin that is less than 100,000 years old is called Copal. Amber from the Baltic or Dominican Republic is 25 million to 40 million years old. Archeologists have found carved amber in graves dating over 2000 BC. This rich history with the Earth gives Amber a strong, cleansing and healing energy both metaphysically and physically.
Amber’s energy is very healing and protective. Amber has an electromagnetic quality. It will build up an electrical charge, so jewelry that sits against your skin is more effective for healing. It was called‘elektron’by the ancient Greeks. This is said to be the origin of the word ‘electricity’.
Today, it’s uses range from teething necklaces and bracelets for babies, protection from psychic attack, and removing toxins from organs. Working at a health store opened my eyes to Amber’s uses for physical healing. Dozens of mothers I interacted with swore by its effects on their baby’s teething pain. Amber also aids in emotional healing from depression, clearing and opening of chakras, and physical self healing. Wearing the stone around a particular energy point in the body will help cleanse your auric field.
“Keep your face always toward the sunshine – and shadows will fall behind you.” – Walt Whitman
You’ve heard the spiritual teachers, the optimists, and your mother tell you… keep your sight on the light. Think of how a dancer pivots their head while spinning. If she were to cast her gaze among the spinning world around her, she could lose her balance. Keeping her focus on one point, and pivoting her head overlooking the spinning chaos, she can continue to dance. Life can seem chaotic, but if you focus on the silver lining, the light in any situation, you will never lose your balance. When you always face the light, the shadows will fall at your back, no matter how dark they may seem. Your future will always be bright. ☀️
It seems so simple to say get out of your own way, but its a point so many people on this planet miss. Are you your own worst critic? Are you fearful of making a bad choice? Are you scared to fail? Do you turn down opportunities after talking yourself out of it? Do you talk yourself out of trying something new? Do you convince yourself that mediocrity is okay? If you answered yes to any of these questions, this message is for you.
I meet so many who block their own abundance in their lives. Worry and doubts can attract the very miserable experiences you are trying to avoid. I have been guilty of it myself so I am speaking from a place of love so that the next person can avoid it. I don’t know about you, but at the end of the day I don’t want to say I simply “got through” my life. I want to enjoy all that life has to offer. The best way to do this is to become a “Yes Man” to God, the Angels, and the Universe with every good thing that presents itself to you.
God wants to shower us with infinite abundance. It took me a long time to realize that it takes a great deal of energy to be broke and manifest misery. If you constantly talk yourself out of opportunities, people, and new things, you may totally be missing your boat to abundance. If you control others trying to help you out of fear and turn them down, you are blocking the help coming your way. The good news is that there are an infinite number of opportunities available. It is never too late to start to notice the chance meetings, good information, or people coming your way.
I strongly believe God works through us and reaches down to us through others. It’s time to get out of your own way and enjoy everything the Universe has to offer. No more excuses. Know in your heart that abundance is here for you, and take the action steps you are guided to take. If your path isn’t clear, meditate. Ask for a sign. Do something. Anything is better than staying passive. I promise you that the Universe will answer. It’s time to let go, surrender the fears from your ego, and start living the promises today.
This affirmation helped me out immensely so I thought I’d share. We may not even be consciously aware that we often guard ourselves from experiencing the truth for protection. Sometimes it seems easier to take the road of least resistance. Sometimes it may feel easier to go along with the status quo even though your inner lie detector is going off. I find that seeing the underlying truth in every situation is key to protecting yourself. Putting on your blinders is a mask. The only person you are betraying when you wear a mask is yourself.
Seeing the truth in every situation gives you clear guidance on what changes you need to make in your life. Human beings love to be comfortable and may shy away from acknowledging a truth, but seeing an uncomfortable truth and dealing with it will bring you a greater joy and peace to your life. Friendships that aren’t founded in integrity will be dismissed. Career choices that are out of alignment with who you are will be changed. Any seemingly problems in your relationships will be healed. Habits that do not help you with your life purpose will be dropped. There is beauty in facing the truth, no matter how uncomfortable you may initially feel. Let go.