Soulmates, Twin Flames, and Lessons: How Do We Know?


Soulmates, twin flames, and lessons: how do we know? And more importantly, how can we manifest these unions? It’s taken a lot of love and a lot of loss for me to gain some clarity on romance for the spiritually-minded goddess. When you have developed your intuition and empathy over the years, when you do finally meet someone who lights you up, your love is intense, the signs will come flying, and you may find yourself overcome with passion for that individual. The difficult balance is communicating these intense feelings without scaring off your potential partner. The beautiful news is that like attracts like, and the person you are connecting with has likely seen the synchronistic moments, felt your loving presence, and also has some type of passion for you as well. The interesting question on my mind is what if the other person hasn’t quite mastered their intuition or opened their heart fully? The impatience sets in when you realize union between two flames can only happen once both people are tuned in to their divine guidance and loving themselves completely. Only then will you be ready to love each other in such a deeply conscious way. 

The magical element to attraction is that every person sent to you is meant to teach you something. You may go through years of failed attempts at love and then finally meet someone who makes you realize the divine timing behind it all. That kind of bliss will help you recognize that all the trials and tribulations were worth it. 
Confusion may set in if the relationship feels familiar– like you’ve known them before. A sense of deja vu can denote a prior lifetime together. These types of relationships often come with karmic baggage that need to be recognized, worked through, and healed. Many people incarnate together over lifetimes because they are part of the same soul group, or soulmates. They can even be family members or friends, not just romantic partners. These relationships are not always rainbows and butterflies. Soulmates help each other grow and transform, which can sometimes be painful. Soulmate relationships can also manifest joy, abundance, and playfulness. The wide spectrum of communication, from deeply concerning topics to blissful days of love and laughter, will keep these soulmates anything but bored. They could spend hours together and still have a lot to talk about. Other days, they could sit in silence and still understand what the other is feeling based on feeling their vibe. Since you’ve known each other through many physical densities, the soul is the one constant connection. And feeling a connection with someone on that level will bring many ethereal ideas and energies into the physical.

We live in a very interesting time of life. The Earth is transmuting old stagnant energies into a golden age. In preparation of that, many people are coming into union with their twin flame. A twin flame is like a soulmate, and can have very similar vibes, but these relationships are more intense. Why? Because a twin flame is literally your parallel soul. Many clairvoyants say that twin flames come into union during their last lifetimes on Earth, once they are the most spiritually evolved through lifetimes of learning. When twins meet each other, they will find a lot of similarities between them even though they have never physically met before. They will find themselves drawn to one another for some reason. That’s because they have been joined in the 5th dimension way before either of them incarnated here. Their lives may share a lot of parallels. They may have similar ancestry, share similar childhood experiences, maybe they’ve even had the same family pets, or come into a lot of money, and lost it all supporting their families at similar times. Maybe they even eat similarly no matter how strange the diet is in terms of societal norms. Maybe there’s a telepathic element there where you seem to be listening to the same songs, or feeling each other’s feelings even without saying a word. I’m speaking from experience. When twins come together, their energy is joyful yet intense. Their childlike humor and sense of adventure makes everyone around them feel happy. They help each other grow and challenge each other like soulmates do, but a twin also comes with many keys of happiness the other needs and vice versa. When twin flames come into union, it’s a huge blessing to not only themselves, but the world. We live in a world of free will choices though and twins and soulmates may choose to experience relationships with other people. When that happens, your 5th dimensional self often knows the divine timing behind why you are separated from your twin, even though your 3rd dimensional self may not fully understand. Everything happens for a reason, even if our finite human minds may not comprehend the reasoning. The point is though, once they come into contact, they are both forever changed. 

While the intensity of these relationships have the potential to rock your world, they also have the potential to heal your world. It’s about which mind you and your soulmate are feeding: one of fear or one of love. We live in a free world so the decision is yours. The beautiful thing is that there is never a wrong decision. Either way, you will learn. Keep in mind that love experienced between two beings is just recognition of the source within another person. This is always within you. You do not need a twin or a soulmate to feel the loving energy of the universe. However, having someone to channel those higher dimensional energies with does bring many additional blessings to this planet. When we send each other love, it builds. 

If you desire to manifest a relationship like this, the best thing you can do is to decide to love yourself. When you work on becoming your greatest version and following your bliss, you’ll attract the higher self of someone else who is also coming into their own. Furthermore, doing things that you are passionate about will lead you to places where others are also passionate about similar things. It’s there that you’ll meet your soul group, your tribe. If you think you’ve met this person, heart to heart conversations are key. Keeping information is literally keeping someone in the dark. Shed light on how you are feeling. Also, buckle up, buttercup. There are many stages twins go through before coming into union. While the fairytale stage is blissful, the turmoil of purging any fears stage, and the runner and the chaser stage is not for the weak of heart. If it’s meant to be, it will happen. Let it go and see what comes back. It is in the moments we stop looking that it comes to fruition. ✨

Ending Narcissism: Loving Yourself from the Heart


Being someone who recently loss 60 lbs, I have no attachment to how my body looks. I am focusing on being healthy and practicing self love by devoting time to taking care of myself, but I am in no way attached to my appearance. Appearances are just that… Appearances. And appearances are not always what they seem. They are illusions, at best. Having attachment to your own appearance or the appearance of others is an illusion of love. Your self-worth can’t be measured by your quality of selfie. It’s only when you get passed the casing and view the soul within that you are truly connecting on a spiritual, intimate level. 

It isn’t until we look within ourselves and truly explore the depths of our souls that we can even begin to understand what unconditional love for the self means. Practicing self love is also embracing complete acceptance of all facets of you. Accept any perceived short-comings and weaknesses. Accept any unflattering pictures. Accept any perceived triumphs and losses. Accept the way you look like when you wake up in the morning. Accept yourself at both your heaviest, and your lightest. Because at the end of the day, it’s all you. 

Have no attachment to the way your appearance shows up everyday. The only constant is the soul within. Fall in love with who you are on the inside, and prepare to wake up everyday happy to be you. When you can finally view yourself through the lens of unconditional love, you have given yourself the tool to share this same unconditional love with someone else. 

When we are so conditioned to project confidence and self love by an image, we are completely missing the point. There is a key difference between narcissism and a true self-loving nature. Love is an all-encompassing, all-accepting warm energy of the universe. It isn’t until we can let go of any ego-centric beliefs on the projection of self love that we can truly experience a heart-centered, unconditional loving of the self.  

Winter Solstice: Facing Darkness

Wishing you blessings on this Winter Solstice! Today is all about facing darkness, the shadow parts of our souls. As we illuminate darkness, we heal the world. We teach ourselves to shine our lights without fear. See how the unicorn brings light to the dark and cold. She always has the light shining from within her, come what may. 

Egyptians believed a dark night of the soul to be a right of passage. They would confine themselves in darkness for days. Some would die of fright while others would emerge brighter than ever after overcoming their fears. Shadows are also blessings and are meant to teach you about yourself and the world. Wisdom is earned when facing darkness. Keep your sight on the light, even on the darkest of days. Facing, forgiving, and releasing the dark parts of you will only help you shine your light brighter than ever. 

Experiencing Lack? 

Always remember that we live in an abundant universe. You can literally attract abundance just by matching the frequency of abundance. 

Experiencing lack? Lower energy emotions such as jealousy may be keeping you from experiencing abundance. Jealousy stems from the deep seeded belief that you can never have what someone else has. 

Remember that you can manifest anything. You, star child, are a magnificent creator, and there is an infinite amount of opportunities to be shared on this planet. Let go of any beliefs in lack. Be grateful that your abundance is already here in infinite supply, and so it is. 🙌🏼✨ 

The Gift of a Life Shift


If there is one thing you can expect in life, it is the unexpected. Things that you don’t expect are often sent to you to shift your life to where it’s meant to go. Embrace any unexpected change and you’ll find that things come to you at the perfect time. Be wary of any attachment to any vision you have of the future. The biggest favor you can do for yourself amidst a major shift of your life is to relinquish control to the universe. This may seem difficult to do at first, but surrendering and letting go of any fears surrounding change is key to working with the universe to manifest positive outcomes in your favor. 

A shift is a gift that is meant to help you grow and to experience things that will help you along your journey. Sometimes our lives are meant to be shaken, rearranged, and adjusted to bring us to decisions we need to make and places we need to be. Once the dust settles, it becomes easier to see the blessings you otherwise wouldn’t have experienced without a shift in your world. Life has a way of working itself out. Shift happens, and when it does, enjoy the wonderful, synchronistic ride. 

Have You Met You? 


When looking at a human being from a higher perspective, our natural state is love and light in spiritual truth. Darkness only comes from the free will choices away from the light. Looking at someone through the eyes of compassion, we can see that there is nothing you could ever do to condemn your divine birth right as a spiritual being of light and love. With this in mind, we understand that your soul is nothing less than a part of the divine. 

Romantic love is an expression of the love within your soul shared with another human being. Everyone has the potential to love because that is who we are in spiritual truth. To be afraid of love is to be afraid of yourself. I’ve been told to love someone is to be brave. To love is to risk your heart being broken. I disagree. To avoid love is to dim your heart chakra, and to repress the very essence of who you are. To inhibit your natural state of being is nothing less than to avoid meeting yourself. It is way more painful to repress your natural essence for any portion of your life than to love and lose. Also, when two people stay connected to the love within them, the struggle for romantic love ceases. There is no unbalanced demand between partners because love is shared.  

With this logic in mind, it is easy to see that people can only meet you as deeply as they’ve met themselves. If others are fearful of expressing love, essentially expressing who they are in spiritual truth, they will not be able to connect with you deeply. If they haven’t met who they are, a deeply loving spiritual being, then they will likely have a difficult time connecting in such a balanced, healthy way.

Whenever you find yourself in a situation where you can see the divine love in someone before they can see it themselves, it’s okay to let them go. Wish them well, give them time, and let them meet themselves. In the meantime, know that love already exists within you. You don’t need any external being to express what was given to you by divine right. You are an amazing spiritual being of love. Never forget your truth. 

Myth Buster: Unrequited Love

Sometimes we all need a little reminder. 😉

Xo Julie Tour

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Unrequited love does not exist in our universe. Consider the text book definition. The dictionary defines unrequited as “not reciprocated or returned in kind.” I am already hearing the cries, “But Johnny didn’t love me!” or “I was never good enough for him!” or better yet, “She never even noticed me.” I still stand by my statement that unrequited love is a myth in this universe.

Why a myth, you ask? Love is a form of energy, and energy in our universe is never really lost. As a society, we have gotten so caught up in the physicality of “boy meets girl- falls in love” that we lose the sense of what love really is. Consider that everything in the universe is connected with energy. Consciousness in essence is where your thoughts dwell. While some may stay locked in the cause and effect mentality, others transcend that limiting belief. Some…

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Halloween and the Thinning Veil

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The veil this time of year is thinnest between our world and the spirit world. It’s connected to the very origins of All Hollow’s Eve. The presence of other beings can be more easily felt when the veil is thin. This created many superstitions surrounding this time of year. A Celtic festival took place where people would light bonfires and dress up to ward off roaming spirits. This is where our costume traditions came from. A thinning veil is nothing to fear and is a chance to tap into knowledge more easily.

This week, so far, has proven itself one of emotions and feelings. It has been almost effortless tuning into the energy of situations around us from both an individual level and global scale. Our intuition is heightened when the veil is thin. We are able to feel information more easily when we keep our minds and bodies clear with healthful practices (See Julie Tour Discusses 5 Simple Steps to Develop Psychic Awareness). This awareness is taken to new heights during this time of hyper-sensitivity. While tapping into higher dimensional energies can be very uplifting, the energy of the world is also shining light on very dark matters, making the general feeling one of intensity. Lies are coming to light. Corruption is being exposed. People are waking up on a variety of long-term issues humankind has been facing. 

When people are dishonest, and you can feel it, it may feel like a betrayal. Just know that there are deeper issues at play when someone is dishonest that has everything to do with them and not you. Be as compassionate as possible when facing these challenges for not only the person in question, but your own peace. Corruption on a global scale may seem beyond your control, and can be scary when recognized and felt. It is important to realize that sending light and love to even the most horrendous situations can create ripples throughout the world and bring about change. Awareness is the first step to address an issue and can generate discussion to solve it. Instead of focusing on fears that may arise, stay centered in prayer and meditation. We have so much help from so many beautiful souls that anything is possible. Remember, love is always the answer, no matter the question.

The energy may feel intense, but there is fun and joy to be had this Halloween. Keep shining your light, go with the flow of events, and enjoy. XO

Happiness in the Here and Now 


Once upon a time, I was college graduate who solely wanted to accomplish goal after goal after goal. I truly feel this constant need to do more came from grade school. If I was goofing around, there was some project or some test I was putting off. This feeling translated into my adulthood. It’s one of the great lies we tell ourselves that accomplishing more titles or more projects will also translate into more happiness in the future. When we focus on bringing joy to our lives in the here and now, we start living our best lives today.

In recent years, I’ve focused more on my own personal joy. This came from the realization that taking time out for fun is an amazing investment. To make space in my life for fun has equipped me with the ability to better help others. To be creative and to have a fresh perspective on things when I go to write, or even when getting creative with charity work, it really takes a good balance of work and play. You should never feel guilty to take time out for yourself.

The beautiful thing about joy is that it’s contagious. Happy people truly can better help others find more joy in their lives. With this logic in mind, it’s easy to see how your own joy can not only be a good thing for you, but everyone around you. Making joy your priority is anything but selfish. To make joy your priority is to bring more joy to not only yourself, but to the world around you. This planet could definitely use more of that. 

Welcome to the Shift: When Things Go “Wrong”

It’s always interesting when things go “wrong” from our point of view. I truly feel as time goes on, terrible things that once perplexed me start to make a little more sense. The undesirable things tend to mix things up and shift your life to something even better. Remembering this important life lesson during trying times is key.

Did you lose your job? Lose someone you love to the other side? Have the bill collections caught up to you? Did that amazing person you want to get to know become unavailable? Good. Feel that. Feel all of it. But then let it go. Let the universe take it’s course. Let the shifting situations around you naturally unfold. 

It can always be scary when we can’t see how things will work out. But that’s what faith is. According to Martin Luther King Jr., faith is taking the first step even though you cannot see the whole staircase. Taking a little step everyday amidst trying situations, that tend to fog up our vision, will lead you to an even better situation. Even in the worst of circumstances, at least you are learning. Have faith that the universe is working in your favor, because it is.